VALUE

RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE'S SELF

by Kelvin Shobola

The intrinsic daily communication with our inner being brings about the value we place on ourselves. A man who is not in tuned with himself or herself will live life based on people's perception about them. 

Relationship with one's self brings to fruition our true identity which will shape the way we relate with people, our spiritual life, our finance, our thought etc. It's a discovery that has to be discovered by everyone because we have been uniquely gifted by God.

The following are the ways in which we can come to oneness with ourselves:

1. Observation: To discover who we truly are, we have to be self-conscious, that is, we have to observe the activities we do that brings us joy, happiness and a sense of fulfillment. The truth about life is when we pursue success and we are diligent in what we do, money will definitely come. We have to also understand our temperament because a well-groomed Christian or Muslim with the highest certificate without the knowledge of temper management will be tagged wrongly by the society because most people don't want to associate with a bad tempered person. If we can master our temperament effectively, we would be able to manage people well without involving ourselves in any conflict because we know what triggers that unpalatable mood.

2. Meditation: This is the second stage where we have to connect with ourselves mentally. It can also be called "Pre-action" because we would have to reflect on the real 'YOU' as no one can know you better than you. Start planning on how to actualize your purpose not dreams because your dreams might not be where your purpose lays. The truth is God has opened our eyes to our purpose in life so we shouldn't be asking or seeking elsewhere to discover it, it's inside 'YOU'.

According to the popular saying, we must be it before we become it, that is, we must become something mentally before we can become it physically. According to the story of David in the bible, he was chosen by God to become the king of Israel and was anointed by Prophet Samuel but he was not crowned immediately because he was not ready for it mentally which took him some years before he finally became the king of Israel.

3. Action: This is where all our plans are brought to fruition. To be successful in this stage, we must learn to prioritize things, that is, we should know what we want to achieve at a particular period of time and stay faithfully to it without procrastination. Another important thing is we have to seek advise from people in that field but be mindful of their advise as it has to be fine-tuned to be in accordance with our purpose/goal in life.    

4. Review: Every goal/purpose has to be reviewed either weekly, monthly or yearly to amend some lapses and also improve on it. The reason why most people fail in life is because we don't review the gifts that has been be bequeathed unto us for improvement and expansion. According to the parable of the Master and his 3 Slaves, he gave his slaves gifts, one 5, another 3 and the last 1 and left. The one with 5 gifts planned and invested with it while the one with 3 gifts did same but the last slave went to keep his because he was comfortable with survival instincts when the Master came, he was happy with the first and second slave and furious with the last one because he was given a life but didn't manage it well. The Master collected the 1 that was given to him.

Let try to always review our unique gifts that has been given to us with a mind set of improving and expanding it then more will be given to us.

Happy Sunday to everyone.

To be continued.